I
How we treat each other
Speak as a sister. Before you post or reply, picture the woman on the other side of the
screen. She's tired, she's hopeful, she's carrying something. Write to her like you'd write to a sister
you love. That posture catches a lot of unkindness before it leaves the keyboard.
Disagree gently. We're not all going to land in the same place on every question.
That's fine. What's not fine is treating disagreement like a competition. Pursue understanding
before correction. Ask what she meant. Read it twice before you reply.
"Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person."
Colossians 4:6
No name-calling. No backhanded compliments. No public dressings-down of another
sister, even if she's wrong. If something a sister said feels like it crossed a line, flag it
instead — that's exactly what the flag is for.
II
Faith without grandstanding
Scripture welcome. Quote it freely. Wrestle with it openly. Share what's been speaking
to you. The Word is the soil this whole community grows in.
Sermons, not so much. What we're trying to avoid is the move where someone uses
Scripture to flatten another sister's experience or to win a point. That's not what the Word is for.
If you find yourself writing a long correction with a verse stapled to it, pause. Re-read what she
actually said. Often a question gets further than a citation.
Denominational differences. The community has women across many traditions —
non-denominational, Baptist, Reformed, Anglican, Catholic, charismatic, more. Treat differences as
information about a sister, not as a test she has to pass. We have one Lord. Walk humbly with each other.
III
What's shared here, stays here
This is maybe the most important one. Women share things in here that they don't share anywhere
else — fertility, marriage hardship, mental health, a hard diagnosis, a doubt they can't ask their
pastor. That confidence is what makes this place work.
Don't screenshot prayer requests or threads. Don't quote them in another group chat.
Don't bring them up at church without explicit permission. If a sister wants something repeated,
that's hers to decide and hers to repeat.
Anonymous posts exist precisely because some things are too tender for a name to be
attached. If you post anonymously, no other member sees who you are. Moderators can — so we can
gently follow up if a post raises a real safety concern — but we don't share that information unless
we have to.
IV
What we don't allow
A few hard lines. Posts that cross these will be removed. Repeat issues end membership.
- Personal attacks or harassment against any member.
- Profanity, slurs, or sexually explicit content.
- Political flame wars. You can mention politics if it's part of what you're
walking through — you can't make it the point of a thread or use it to fight.
- Marketing, spam, or affiliate links. If you have a business, you're welcome
in the marketplace-women group; that's where launches go. Not on the Wall.
- Doxxing or sharing anyone's private information — including a husband, kids,
pastor, or another member.
- Anything that would make this an unsafe place for a 14-year-old (some of our
members are walking with younger sisters and daughters).
V
Anonymous posts & tender topics
Anonymous posting is welcome on the Prayer Wall — toggle Post anonymously in the
composer. Other members won't see your name, photo, or city. We've kept it on for posts about:
- Marriage in a hard season
- Mental-health and depression
- Miscarriage, fertility, and grief
- An adult child who's walking away from the faith
- A doubt you don't know who else to ask
On the receiving side: when someone posts anonymously, treat it as the gift it is. Don't try to
guess who it is. Don't speculate in replies. Pray for her, encourage her, hold the space.
VI
How moderation works
The flag is your tool. If something feels off — too political, off-topic, harassing,
or just plain unkind — tap the small flag icon on the post or thread. Pick a reason, hit send,
and we take it from there.
Two flags from different members auto-hides a post from the public feed. The post
doesn't disappear from existence — it goes straight to our moderation queue, and a moderator
(or the group's leader) reviews it. The original poster keeps their account; the post is just
paused while we look.
What happens after review. If the post is fine, we restore it. If it's a real
problem, we remove it and quietly reach out to the poster. Repeated issues lead to a warning,
then a removal from the community. We try to be gracious before we get firm.
If you flag something: we won't tell the original poster who flagged. Your name
stays out of it. The flag is just a signal that someone in the room thought it needed a second look.
VII
Group leaders & the leadership covenant
Each group eventually has a leader — a member who moderates their own group,
welcomes new sisters, and gently stewards the conversations there. We choose leaders carefully
and prayerfully; if you'd like to be considered, click Raise your hand on any
group's about panel. You can also nominate someone else.
Leaders aren't celebrities. They're not paid. They don't have all the answers. They're just sisters
who agreed to keep their room kind. If a leader ever oversteps, treat it the same way as any other
issue — flag the post, or write us directly. Leaders are held to the same guidelines as everyone else.